If you have a son or daughter who is constantly surfing the net, and shows greater preference for this over familial activities, please don't chastise them about it. . . The chances are that they are feeling stressed and aren't finding family company particularly thrilling (you won't make it any more enjoyable either by whinging at them for being lazy, unsociable and selfish etc).
Try instead listening to what your teenage child has to say about how they feel about your relationship with them, what's happening for them and why they prefer the computer to human interaction.
By chastising them for spending so much time on the internet, claiming they are lazy and other such things, you are only demonstrating to them the same thing you are accusing them of. You're being lazy by just passively putting them down instead of actively attempting to find out what is wrong (in other words, you want a quick 'fix,' to the problem), you're being selfish by demanding that your teenage child does as you want them to do and not compromising with their desires and demanding that they care about how you feel while not caring about how they feel.
Read the following study for more information on stress, the family and internet addiction.
http://www.psypost.org/2010/04/stress-family-internet-addiction-596
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